We often build our lives around how much we weight. Overweight people sabotage relationships by feeling they are unattractive. They opt out of dance class, miss out on certain sex positions and even refuse to meet childhood friends because of their weight. The way one views their body often impacts how one participates in the world. However, your size is irrelevant to your ability to find love, fulfillment, sense of purpose and sense of worthiness. Your self-love and body love has the capacity to change your life and can help you lead the most amazing life to your full potential. So let us discuss some easy ways to feel attractive when you are overweight:
1. Think beautiful
Your thoughts and emotions make a huge difference in the image you portray. The degree of attractiveness is directly proportional to what you project. So make it a habit to project peace, love, positive energy and all good things in the Universe and soon you will look beautiful to everyone around you. What you think, feel and believe about yourself also manifests physically in your body and also impacts the way people see you.
2. Love your body, change your world!
If you are already in a relationship, let your partner touch you. Start by loving your body for what it is. Often we imagine ourselves negatively thinking we are 1000 times bigger than what we are. So let go of all the crazy body negative thoughts and see yourself for what you are-beautiful!
3. Have a goal
There is a saying, “If you want happiness, tie that happiness to a goal-not to an object or a person”. So keep a focus on achieving a goal-whether it is eating healthy, learning something new or achieving a certain weight. Keeping a goal and achieving that goal in baby steps can help you give tremendous confidence that will reflect in your eyes. This is an easy way to make you look attractive.
4. Spend time naked
The easiest way to feel sexy even when you are overweight is to spend time naked. Look at your body in the mirror-appreciate the curves and just get comfortable. You might feel a bit awkward in the beginning, but soon you will adjust to it and start feeling more ‘in your skin’. Just 10-15 minutes a day of some alone naked time can do wonders to your body image.
5. Find a loving partner
If you want to feel sexier in bed, find a loving partner who appreciates you for the way you are and is completely attracted to you, no matter what. A recent survey has shown that many couples are avoiding sex because either one or both partners feel too fat for sex. The thing is: sexiness has nothing to do with how much you weigh. So stop being conscious of your body and find someone who finds you irresistible in bed. Once you do, do not be ashamed to be fully turned on. Fat people find love too! Starting today tell yourself that all that you seek is already yours. If you are single, get on the dating scene. There is always someone out there for each one of us. You only need to look in the right place!
6. Move more
This article is not about helping you lose weight. Here, we are only talking about how exercise and physical activity helps release endorphins that make you feel better. So if you want to look and feel sexier all the time, get moving.
7. Dress sexy
Being overweight does not mean you have to wear loose, baggy clothing. Start wearing clothes that suit you-heck even wear something that scares you! We have covered some wonderful tips on ways to look slimmer for overweight people.
8. Have a photo-shoot
In order to feel attractive again, go for a sexy photoshoot. You can even dress up in lingerie and have a boudoir shoot. Seeing those professionally shot images will help you see yourself in new light and make you feel attractive. Selfies aren’t selfish- go for a narcissist attitude and take some. Share them with close friends and that will help you see just how attractive you are!
9. Diversify your media feed
Social media can make you feel unattractive and can really pull you down. So diversify your media feed- sign up to pages that are filled with positive quotes and plus sized confidence quotes. Avoid stalking people who are slim and attractive as they will only pull you down.
10. Get support and assistance
Mental health is really important aspect of feeling attractive. Surround yourself with people who get you up. Hold on to people who will encourage, motivate and support you no matter what. If not, seek professional counseling to improve self esteem.
11. Words matter-always speak positively to and about yourself
Watch your thoughts and especially the words you use to describe yourself. Stop stating anything negative about yourself.
12. Rewire your brain with affirmations
Each morning, stand before the mirror-look into your eyes and tell yourself that you are beautiful. Tell the person looking back that you forgive yourself, and love yourself no matter what. Surround yourself with positive confidence inspiring quotes all around your work desk in office/home etc.
Try these 12 easy ways to feel attractive when overweight!